Thursday, 1 October 2009

that youtube mom

Do you remember the you tube vid that was doing the rounds with the mother'combing' yanking the daughter's hair while yelling abuse at her? I read on a site that it prompted a blogger to call child protection services and subsequently the woman has had ALL 3 daughters taken away. People, has it really come to this? Do you know what happens to the majority of these kids who go into care? The horror and abuse that takes place under the cover of 'care' not to mention the extreme trauma of removing children from their home and their mother. Not to trivialize what that mom was doing, but seriously, can we compare the damage caused by ripping them away from their home and delivering them into the hands of strangers with that? 1 daughter is laughing in the vid - twisted entertainment - I know but it pales in comparison with young children experiencing the terror of strange men/women - 'officials' barging into your home, taking you away from the mother you love, to some unknown place, because someone in blogoshphere deemed it so. There are other ways of helping than this. Even making contact and offering some help with some heartfelt advice is better than this. Besides, if we are going to make this an issue, you might as well go ahead and take away several of the black kids from black moms(including Africa) cos most of us have experienced something similar to it. It almost makes a mockery of the so called system which is supposed to step in when there IS SERIOUS abuse taking place where a child's life is in danger. Are we to look to the 'Nanny' state for everything including ratting on folks cos we don't like how they raise their kids or more to the point, how they comb their daughter's nappy hair and their offensive language?? I mean the woman needed telling off, even a cuff round the head to straighten her out, but did she deserve this? More importantly did her kids deserve this?

5 comments:

Nubian1 said...

Wow....that is certainly taking things a little too far...unless of course the investigation highlighted other issues!!
The punishment in this case doesnt befit the crime as it were.
All mom needed was to be shown how to care for her childrens hair...she obviously didnt know any better......ignorance shouldnt become a crime.

Gigglz said...

Wow! I made post about this issue and I did mention that I wondered if someone called the authorities. I guess they did, and it is actually outrageous that they would take the kids out of there home. I'm sure she was able to see the wrongdoing of her ways once it became a issue on youtube and watching herself in action. All I can hope is that her kids are returned to her soon.

Bajan Lily said...

if this is indeed true it is a shame. She needed counselling/help for sure - but to lose her children altogether? Amd the older sister who posted the video online in the first place - how terrible must she feel?

anthia-ofo said...

It just highlights how quickly things can get out of hand. IMO bringing CPS in ought to be a very last resort, but hey who knows? maybe now all the black mamas out there are walking on egg shells combing their kids hair, being ever so gentle and careful.

Thandi said...

oh no.I hope this was just a symptom of somethign worse that CPS found.Though, like you said, I'd have rather done something myself instead of calling in the authorities immediately.People do things out of ignorance, not always because they are being wilfully 'evil.'